THE LOVE FOR THE PROCESS (AND THE ASSOCIATED STRUGGLE) NEEDS TO BE AS STRONG AS THE DESIRE TO ACHIEVE THE GOAL.
About a year ago I came to the realization that every job opportunity I’ve had in my life has been “handed” to me. I’ve sent in very few job applications and have experienced only a handful of interviews. I’ve always known somebody who knew somebody. Of course I am extremely hard working and loyal and so I’ve always given my all to each one of these opportunities. However most of these jobs were not in line with my values or priorities. I would burn out quickly and then flounder to figure out what might be next or what career would be best. I had lost all touch with what my values and priorities were. I wasn’t accomplishing anything because I hadn’t found a goal that warranted a big enough sacrifice. It was at this same time last year that I had started my studies with the Institute for Integrative Nutrition and have been getting clearer about my intentions every day.
In the last few months, I have made a lot of changes, good changes, changes that are bringing me back to my authentic self. With these changes there are struggles but after reading Mark Manson’s “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck” I realize more than ever the importance of that struggle along with the desire to work hard for a clear purpose.
HERE ARE THE FOUR THINGS THAT HAVE REALLY KEPT ME ON TRACK WITH MY GOALS:
- Have a plan that aligns with your values and your innate characteristics. Without a clear plan and action steps your will flounder to accomplish your goals. Want to lose 10 pounds? Quit your job? Pay off your debt? What do the steps look like to achieve that goal? What will you need to sacrifice to get there? Write down those steps and those sacrifices, along with a timeline and the values that will be important with each step. If you know what you have to do tomorrow you are more likely to get up and do it. Following a lifting plan at the gym has played a major roll in my consistency with my showing up for workouts.
- Create a Support System. Surround yourself with friends, family members, coworkers and romantic partners that support your goals and values. Join a mastermind group of like minded individuals, join an online community, and share your passion with others. Along with that lifting plan, I have been making plans with friends to meet at the gym. When someone else is also holding you accountable for your actions the rate of success improves tremendously.
- Do NOT sacrifice your values. What are the things that make you innately you? What are the qualities that you look for in friends, lovers or companies? Find a way to incorporate your values into your goals. If you value charity and your goal is to lose 10 pounds, sign up for a 5k that benefits a non-profit organization. If you value friendships, do not cancel dinner with your friends in order to see a new client. When we start sacrificing the things that we value we begin to resent the tasks or people that are replacing those other priorities. The last thing you want to do when trying to accomplish a task or goal is to resent that goal.
- Sleep Well. I put this last but I think it’s the most important factor in achieving all your goals. This is always number one on my priority list. The expression “I’ll sleep when I’m dead” is overrated. Getting enough good quality sleep is vital for proper functioning of many of your body’s organs and systems. Exhaustion will lead to irritability and illness. It will take a toll on your relationships and your mind, which will not help you achieve any of your goals. Rather the process would end a lot sooner due to burn out. I often tell my clients if you have to choose between sleep or exercise, ALWAYS choose sleep.